The One Thing That's Been Killing Your Dates

The One Thing That’s Been Killing Your Dates

I bet you’ve been on a date before where you felt like you needed it to go perfectly, you needed to to work. What happened? It probably turned out very bad. 

For instance, if you place way too much importance on everything working perfectly, if and when something goes wrong, you lose it and have a mental breakdown. 

Let’s say you’re on a date and something simple happens like you drop your drink on the floor and it makes a mess. You think “Oh my God, she’s gonna think I’m clumsy. This is awful! How did I let this happen when I need her to think I’m super cool?”

You’re gonna get flustered and make a big deal out of it and say “Omg I’m so sorry. Ugh. Please don’t think I do this all the time. I’m really very well coordinated. I was the captain of the football team. Here, I’ll prove it. Look at this picture of me on the football team.” 

“Learn to be unreactive and cool, and you’ll be 100x more attractive in her eyes, even if you do lack the fine motor skills to successfully handle a tasty beverage.”

What is she going to think? Woah, this guy is super insecure. This guy cares way too much and is trying way too hard to impress me. He must be low value. I don’t believe a word out of his mouth anymore. 

It wasn’t spilling the drink that was the issue, it was the way you REACTED that was the issue. 

If you had just played it cool, laughed it off and called the waiter, even making a joke about how you’re clumsier than Joe Biden, she would have seen that you were secure, not nervous, and admired how cool you are when things go wrong. That’s what they want in a man. Because if you freak out about something like that, how are you going to handle real problems that come up in a relationship? 

Learn to be unreactive and cool, and you will be 100x more attractive in her eyes, even if you do lack the fine motor skills to successfully handle a tasty beverage.

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