It’s finally happened, you and your partner have been dating for a couple of weeks and they’ve asked you to spend the night at their place. Now, you’re excited don’t get me wrong, but you’re also pumped with anxiety. This is the first time you will have spent the night and you want it to be perfect. Not sure where to begin? Don’t worry, just follow these tips!
Here are 5 tips for mastering your first sleepover date:
Regardless if you are going to their place or they’re coming to yours, a little self-care can go a long way. Feeling your best can help relieve some of the concerns centered around wanting to embody your best self, before heading over, make sure you check off all the things that make you feel most attractive. Whether that includes shaving, exfoliating, or applying your favorite scented moisturizer, don’t skip out because confidence is sexy.
Now that you’re fresh out of the shower and have applied lotion from head-to-toe, it’s time to pack. When it comes to packing for an overnight trip, there is only one rule of thumb: don’t overpack! Start with the essentials; toothbrush, deodorant, cash, and condoms. You are not moving in or going on a week-long excursion, there’s no need to bring over five extra outfits. You want to make a good first nighttime impression, and that could mean different things for men and women.
For some women, nothing sets the mood more than lingerie, and if you are ready to take that next step, what better way to get the ball rolling? Still, don’t forget to pack a comfy outfit for the start of the night or you’ll end up wearing your corset for the rest of the night. Men might not have the same packing issues as women but something that is frequently overlooked is not what they pack but where they pack their belongings. Sure it’s easy to throw your deodorant and toothbrush in a plastic bag and call it a day, but if you want to make a good impression, then try swapping the plastic bag for a nice toiletry bag.
Have a Plan
Usually, when it’s date night, there is a multitude of distractions happening, you both are just trying to get the most out of your time together because sooner or later you have to go home. However, tonight is different; you might feel the need to portray yourself as someone who’s naturally entertaining, which can add even more pressure to the night. That’s why it’s important to have a plan! Create a list of fun things to do or watch, like his or her favorite movies or board games.
Creating a plan can not only eliminate the chance of one of you getting bored but it can also show off your considerate side. This doesn’t mean you need to make an itinerary for the whole night, but instead, keep a list of things to do if you’re not sure what your night has in store. Consider playing sexy versions of your favorite games to add some spice to the night and keep the conversation going.
While it might be tempting to drink, be cautious! Reaching for a drink may alleviate your nerves, but try not to rely on drinking to get you through the night. The last thing you want is to wake up with no memory of the night before. If you’re using drinking as a way to get through the night and end up wanting to go home, don’t feel obligated to stay. It might feel awkward and uncomfortable to leave but if you feel off about the night, you have every right to leave. Just make sure to let a close friend know about your location, it’s better to be safe than sorry.
Relax And Be Yourself
It’s vital to remain relaxed through everything, no matter how nervous you may be. You like this person and they like you, try not to sweat the small stuff. It’s easy to jump to conclusions when your partner shares a slice of their life with you, but just because they have opened their home to you does not give you permission to snoop. Be respectful of their space and belongings, you want this sleepover to set a positive tone for the rest of your relationship!
A sleepover does not always mean sex, so if you are not ready then be open with your partner because you should always feel comfortable to say no and still have an enjoyable night. Nevertheless, if you know this sleepover will mark the first time that you both are going to get intimate with each other, be prepared! Sleeping with someone new for the first time can be nerve-racking for anyone, which might lead to bedroom difficulties.
Stress-related intimacy issues, like erectile dysfunction, can have the biggest effect on men. If you know that the pressure might be too much and affect your performance, consider looking into a medication for ED like sertraline that can help you maintain an erection in the moment. Women, on the other hand, tend to worry more about their overall image instead of performance. In that case, finding ways to boost your sexual confidence may assist you in overcoming it.
If there’s anything that’s of consistent concern to you in the bedroom, just be sure you’re staying educated and communicating with your partner. Sexual wellness brand Hims has some helpful resources on their Facebook that give information about common issues and treatments and provide insight into how to talk with your partner about them if needed. Consider reading up to ensure you’re confident going into the night.
You made it through the night, and now you’re either feeling more infatuated with your new beau or want to get out of there immediately. If you’re happy with the way the night unfolded, you might find yourself hoping today will lead to another potential sleepover. While this might be true, unless asked to stay, don’t linger. You have to be mindful of your partner’s time, so you don’t want to overstay your visit.
If you aren’t sure if you should stay or go, suggest grabbing a bite to eat or making breakfast for two, together. If they say no, then you know that it’s your time to go. If they agree, then it helps take the worry off of how long you should stay. It’s also an easy way to assess if they want to spend more time with you.
Your first sleepover date should be fun and exciting, and you both should have an enjoyable time. Don’t be alarmed by the awkward and uncomfortable moments, those will pass with time. Just make sure you follow these 5 tips and enjoy the moment.