Finding a great guy starts with knowing which qualities to look for. Everyone has an idea in their mind of their dream guy. Whether you have a detailed list, or a mental image, you probably know the kind of man you want to date. Everything from his smile, his height, career and favorite color you’ve probably listed as a must have. So, what makes a great guy?
This might sound like a simple question but too often single women get involved with men who are less than what they want. Women believe that their partner is everything they ever wanted but then realize, often too late, that they should move on from men that are no good for them.
A great guy has the three qualities listed below and will express his interest in you without you chasing him like a wild rabbit. Many women apply superficial judgments when choosing a partner. If you really want to identify the good guys from the rest you have to look deeper into their character.
When it comes to choosing a guy to date, you want to consider the following attributes.
#1 GENUINE ATTRACTION
Attraction is the combination of appearance, intelligence, humor and commonalities. There are ancillary factors such as social proof and empathy but the first sign that you’ve found a great guy is that there’s chemistry. You have to be attracted to who he is at the moment, not what he has to offer or who he might be down the road.
If you’re tempted to substitute any one of these attributes because you like his attention, or you see his potential, then you’re selling yourself short. Many women find themselves dating a man because he offers stability or attention even when they lack chemistry and real attraction with him. The first step to judging if a man is boyfriend material is to measure your attraction to him. It isn’t the only factor but it’s an intuitive response to chemistry and it shouldn’t be taken lightly.
Relationships are partnerships. A great guy is willing to be a supportive partner and be there for you when you need him. When two people are dating its imperative that both parties build each other up instead of break each other down. If your future boyfriend can’t champion for you then he doesn’t need to be a part of your life.
You want to date a man who encourages you to pursue your dreams. Even if you’re in the beginning stages of dating, it’s important that when you share your ideas and passions, your date is interested and supportive. A great guy will wish you ‘good luck’.
Men who are negative or pessimistic about your goals do not make good partners. Some single men are simply negative, but when you’re dating someone, it’s important that he encourage you to pursue your goals and offer to help in anyway he can. Passive support is not enough. A good guy will be actively involved in your life and your goals. Choose a guy who wants to be your biggest cheerleader.
Support is a great way to show that you’re interested in someone and interested in their personal success. A man who encourages you to achieve your goals, before he even knows you, has great character and boyfriend material.
There are two nonnegotiable factors that make a relationship work; they are timing and values. A great man, one who is boyfriend material, has firm values that likely stem from his religious or spiritual believes. This doesn’t mean he’s committed to a religious practice but instead he’s created a value system based on his faith or spiritual practice that acts like a guidance system for his life.
He has given his values a lot of thought and has determined the principles that work for him. Part of being an adult is deciding for your self what you believe.
He practices what he preaches. He sets a moral standard and he lives by it. He knows the difference between right and wrong and has a sense of fairness about him. A man with morals and a strong belief in something bigger than himself will have vision not only for himself but his relationships. If you want to a man who will be a great partner, judge him by his values and what he believes in.
When choosing your next boyfriend the most important thing to remember is that it’s your choice. You set the standard for what you accept and you attract exactly what you believe you deserve.
Keep in mind these core qualities and don’t be afraid to pass up a guy who isn’t everything that you’re looking for.
A great relationship is better than a good one any day of the week.