How many times have you agreed to go out with someone just to “see” if it would work out?
You agree to a date with someone who you only kind of like because you know a girl who has a cousin, whose neighbor’s hairstylist once went out with someone they hated, now they are happily married and madly in love.
You think to yourself, “That could happen.” So you accept a date with someone who in your heart you can’t really see yourself dating.
I can’t tell anyone who they should date. I can tell you how to decide who you should date based on what you really want out of relationship. The problem with many singles is that they don’t really know what they want.
I’m sure you’ve heard it before and you might even fall under that label but when you’re single, getting what you want can only happen when:
- You know what you want
- You avoid everyone who is not it
To many singles this is terrifying. What if they miss out on a great potential date because they were too picky, too snobby or too closed-minded? The horror! The shame!
The truth is, you already do this. More often than not you’re missing opportunities with potential dates because of your fears and insecurities.
This is why I stress the importance of women hitting on men from time to time. If you only date the people who talk to you first, you’re limiting your options to whoever felt good about themselves that day.
When it comes to deciding who to date you can follow 3 simple steps.
- Date people you’re attracted to
- Date people who seem genuine and interesting
- Date people who ask you out in a respectful manner to a place you want to go.
I can honestly say all the men that I have dated have fallen into at least one of these categories. Don’t date people just to “see”. Be clear about what you want and say no to the rest.