The Dating Truth

It’s my firm belief that if you want to find love, you shouldn’t date. I know it sounds backwards but think about how profound love is and how superficial dating can be. When we meet people and allow them into our lives it’s hardly because of dating.

Co-workers, friends of friends and other close connections are the real source of how couples are formed. Too many singles are waiting for the “one” to come along and they expect to find them through dating. You probably won’t.

You can be honest with me, I know and you know that you think … CONTINUE READING…

Raise your hand if you’re happy. If you didn’t put your hand up, I want you to know that you aren’t alone.

There are several unhappy people in the world, and the scary part is you’ve already dated a lot of them.

While people think dating and being single, (sometimes lonely) are contributing sources to their current unhappiness, they’re wrong.

Dating should be one thing: entertaining. If you don’t enjoy you’re dating life, you’re doing wrong and more importantly for the wrong reasons.

Dating is a source of entertainment and that’s why it should be enjoyed. It’s impossible to be … CONTINUE READING…

If you want to test your memory, try to recall what you were worrying about one year ago today.  ~E. Joseph Cossman

Everyone knows that confidence is the sexiest quality any man or woman can possess. When you are confident, you stand out. You’re body language is strong, your eye contact is positive, you’re energy is up and you just radiate.

It’s a wonder why everyone isn’t confident knowing how awesome it makes you look to the opposite sex. It’s said that people build confidence when they feel comfortable doing things they have done before.

Let’s say you’re driving home … CONTINUE READING…

There are easier things in life than trying to find a nice guy…like nailing jelly to a tree for example

Recently my self-proclaimed mentor Paul Carrick Brunson, blessed Essence.com with an insightful article titled “10 Underrated Men & Why You Should Date Them”.

Surprisingly, there was a little backlash to the absurd suggestion that women should settle or lower their standards.

Having dated almost every man on the list (even man boobs) I was surprised by the eye rolls and head spins the article created and decided to blog about it.

As did my homey The Champ of VerySmartBrothas.com… CONTINUE READING…

I know I am but summer to your heart, and not the full four seasons of the year- Edna St. Vincent Millay

There are two killer thoughts that take anything positive and instantly turn it into a disaster; that’s jealousy and self-doubt. When you are looking for love this summer there is one thing to remember, the right person for you is only for you because you are only for them.

This isn’t to say that there is one person on earth for all of us, of course not. But keep in mind that the person you are looking … CONTINUE READING…