Your attitude plays a bigger role in your life than most people realize. When you have a certain feeling towards something it tends to be (to put it simply) good, bad or indifferent.

I want you to ask yourself, “How do I feel about dating?”

This can be complicated.

On one hand dating for many means a path to a relationship then marriage. There is no specific way to feel about it, other than it’s a necessary evil. Obviously, to get the commitment … CONTINUE READING...

There are things you want. I know that. You know that. Being clear is the first step to being honest and being honest is the first step to being happy.

So great, you now have an idea of what it is you want out of your love life and after X amount of years at the drawing board, I want you to put the pen down and step away.

Here is how it’s going to work.

You’re flawed. You’re more than … CONTINUE READING...

Whether they feel their presence is a gift in itself, most of the time when people fail in dating it’s because they are not adding enough value to their partners’ life.

This couldn’t be more obvious than in the first few minutes of conversation with a stranger.

While you might not be deeply invested in the lives of everyone you meet the ability to be of interest to them isn’t a trait I find most people can turn on or off.

The … CONTINUE READING...

It’s likely that you’re single because you have an idea of the person you think you can date. It’s like a job you think you think you’re qualified for.

I’m sure if you haven’t gone to medical school you would be less likely to take a position in the field of medicine.

Dating is no different.

Single people place themselves in leagues, categories, types, boxes etc. We … CONTINUE READING...

This young woman finds herself doing things she’s never done before or imagined herself doing, all the while engulfed and aroused by his magnetism.

In the author’s white world the female character is “hypnotized” in the real world she’s ‘dickmatized’.

I was a late bloomer but I have … CONTINUE READING...

It’s hard to talk about being single without the philosophical rhetoric of ‘single people are single because they choose to be’.

Well, yes. Life is all about choices and we are where we are because of the choices we’ve made.

The reality of it, whether you call it denial or circumstance; many people don’t feel like being single is their choice.

Being single is the subsequent result of many of your choices, but not a deliberate one.

It’s like being broke.

Surely your spending habits … CONTINUE READING...

Statistics are misleading.

There are a lot of single men and women in the United States, and around the world. Based on the numbers there are more men than women in some cities and more successful women than men in others. If you search the right database there are statistics to support every cliché you’ve heard about your dating options.

What are you’re chances of finding someone? Anyone?

When you account for what makes someone a catch, be it height, career, upbringing and other characteristics we dwindle the large number of singles to the small number we’d actually want to date.… CONTINUE READING...

I spend most of my time absorbed in information about dating, love, sex and relationships. Amongst the emails that I receive and the many singles that reach out to me via Twitter, YouTube, and my blog it’s evident that most women are frustrated.

If you were interested in any other topic be it health, medicine or finance seeking knowledge would be normal, and rational. Somehow, when it comes to love we are ashamed when we don’t know. We don’t want to admit that we don’t know.

The biggest mistake women make in dating is failing … CONTINUE READING...

I used to fall into the bad habit of thinking of my past and my future but never my present.

Visualizing the things you want, people you want to meet and your expectations for who you would like to be is great but we can’t forget we’re not there yet.

Dating is awesome.

Many singles can’t accept that because they’re living in the future. They are too busy worrying about who this person will be in their lives and what this courtship will lead to … CONTINUE READING...

Unless you are one, I suggest women fall out of the love with the idea of dating like a man. It might have started with ‘Sex and the City’ when the famed Samantha Jones character encouraged that women have ‘sex like a man’.

Meaning no strings attached and no feelings involved.

How many women wished they could have the emotional disconnect that most men seem to possess. Date the dopest chick in the world but still casually toss that line.

“I’m just not ready for a relationship right now”

“I just don’t want to … CONTINUE READING...