texting is waaaaaay too lazy…..guys If you can find a nice lady that is low mait that short sweet call in between dates makes her happy …hang on to her…your next chick will want you to spend your money and require all kinds of Stuff you cannot afford then run off with your friend

Why is there a need to show this credential thing – A PhD does not show complete intelligence; only an ability to memorise facts and then regurgitate them.

I agree that there is this huge hang up in the ‘developed’ west about university and college degrees. My late and (very smart) wife was the opposite to this. Due to ill health when she was younger she did not get beyond a very basic college diploma. She struggled with ill health and ultimately lost a long battle with severe mental health issues.

The point is: she was not a ‘dumb’ woman and she was not a great ‘looker’ yet she was the most beautiful person inside and had the sharpest of minds and a very engaging personalty. Her greatest gifts to herself and to me and others was her kindness, honest and great intelligence. Her impact on my life was massive and I miss her every day. Above all she was a person whom I and trusted and loved above all just for herself. You can’t live with a PhD 24 hours a day –

I just felt sad when I read this article as so many women, rather sadly seem to be more preoccupied with telling others (both men and women) just how intelligent they are. Ultimately this just seems to be a self defeating thing to do. That annoys everyone – men and women if they are told all the time just how intelligent you are.

If I meet a nice lady I want first to know that she is kind, has a good sense and humor and is able to talk about anything under the sun. She also has to someone whom I can trust. Academic Intelligence is not an indicator of the deeper personality.

I have met and worked with many very intelligent and creative women throughout my life. Many were good but there were those who were, superior, arrogant and untrustworthy despite their high level of attainment and accomplishment. That was sad because it just created a barrier to connecting where one might have made friends and really gotten to know this or that woman. Insecurity and the resultant flakiness that often comes out in the end and then even a good man might choose to walk away.

I really think it’s great that there are so many smart, creative and accomplished women out there but to people cannot live with rampant egos all day. That destroys relationships in the end. Could this stem from the fac that that so many women of earlier generations where kept down and told that their place was behind the kitchen sink?

In conclusion, this need to ‘prove’ all the time is kind of ‘dumb’ in itself – and one dimensional as well. It also shows, ( I suspect), a lack of maturity which is something that is acquired over time. I have been there and done that one. Beauty is something on the inside not really on the outside.

Let me explain the real truth of how women can compete with perceived “prettier” women.

1) They’re not necessarily prettier than you. This article barely touched on the different standards of beauty, even in mainstream American society. The fact is, those wealthy men that this author apparently wants to date don’t all have the same taste. I happen to be a wealthy girl who is not pretty, so I’m surrounded by wealthy men and I know who they date. Some of them totally ignore the girls with supermodel figures because they don’t find them sexy, and instead go for the girl with a librarian look because she was more “interesting” and could be taken seriously. I know one guy who looks like Jake Gyllenhaal who only dates short, chubby, pale girls with masses of brown hair – because he finds them beautiful. Tall, sculpted blondes always try to get his attention, and fail.

2) Beautiful women tend to attract the douchebags that you don’t want anyway. I have a friend who is a STUNNING blonde – her face looks like a classical painting and she has gorgeous big blue eyes. Stunning. But kind of a ditzy blonde, even though she’s a nice girl. Well, she always attracts the players. Men with girlfriends always hit on her, men who want f*** buddies or who just want to score with her hit on her. Rarely nice guys. In fact, we were at a pub recently and talking to two guys from our university – one was a handsome but douchey player and one was a funny, friendly, happy intellectual kind of guy. Both my friend and I were attracted to the intellectual, but the intellectual ignored my blonde friend and gave me all his attention. I’m very plain, and she’s very pretty, but this guy started talking about how he loved an article I’d written and as we got talking, he kept laughing at my jokes and said he loved how smart I am. Eventually he got my number.

My friend? She spent the evening looking jealously my way and wishing that the player (and other players in the pub) would stop trying to pick her up.

This always happens, by the way – intellectual, serious, hard-working men have always ignored my beautiful, supermodel friends and focused their attention on me. Maybe these are the “raggedy little men” the author is so scornful of? In that case, she can rest assured that they don’t want her either.

SO sometimes it’s NOT the woman, sometimes it’s him. He might have just come out of a divorce, or a long term relationship and he may be emotionally damaged. This is the hardest pill to swallow also, because you know you’re a good woman and you bring to the table anything a man ready would die for but the one person you want, isn’t ready and there’s nothing you can do about it, but MOVE THE F ON!