10 Great Ideas for a Romantic Date

10 Great Ideas for a Romantic Date

First dates are meant for getting to know each other. The aim of a second date is to impress and surprise. With every next date, the list of ideas gets shorter.

Many guys find themselves racking their brains over a new place for a romantic date already after a second rendezvous. If you don’t know where to take your girlfriend out on a date, here are some ideas for you prepared by Ukrainian Brides.

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3 Important Reasons You Need To Date More

3 Important Reasons You Need To Date More

What is a date really, but a job interview that lasts all night?
~ Jerry Seinfeld

Let’s be honest, the real reason you don’t go on more dates is probably your face. This isn’t a diss. It’s not because I believe you’re unattractive or that ugly people aren’t dating. (Oh Match.com has proved to me that they are.)

What I mean is, attractive people are constantly under more pressure to date, and more likely to date with unmeetable standards. This keeps many people home at night because although they feel pressure to date they also face limited options.

When an attractive person can’t find a date they’re likely to ask, “What’s wrong with me?”

If they don’t feel flawed enough then they blame society. The (dating) truth is, people don’t date more often because they just don’t like it.

Like any other activity in life, when it comes to finding a partner, we procrastinate because the thought of actually dating is scary. Yet living the single life can be lonely.

Only when the pros outweigh the cons will modern singles force themselves out of their comfort zone and actually date.

But it doesn’t mean they enjoy it. What many people don’t realize are the benefits that come with dating more often. Being a good dater and a good partner are not mutually exclusive. In fact, those that are great daters tend not to settle into a relationship.

What being a good dater does do is give you options. It puts you in the driver seat so you aren’t just settling for who crosses your path. Not only can you date selectively but you also make the selection process more enjoyable by embracing these benefits of dating more.

So, “Why should you date more?”

Here are a few reasons I think all singles should seriously consider. To me, it’s imperative that all singles, men and women, date often but if you’re hesitant consider the following.

To Gain Perspective 

As a dating coach I act as a mirror for my clients. I show them aspects of themselves that they might have missed or blocked because they’ve been single for so long. Most people aren’t aware how they come across to other and they fail to highlight the qualities that are attractive to others.

Take a moment to place yourself back to the beginning of any current relationship and assess how the friendship evolved. If you were to ask a friend their very first impression of you when you met you would have a better understanding of how your dates feel.

Singles equate who they are now in relation to the friends that they have currently. This isn’t accurate. When you have to repeat your story to strangers, who have no basis or reference to who you really are, there is no bullshitting.

In the time you spend together your date is judging what you say against how you behave.

If you think you’re funny but your date isn’t laughing then you aren’t funny. If you think you’re charming but your date isn’t relaxed and engaged then guess what; you aren’t charming.

Dating makes it clear cut what type of person you are by the response you get. Your ability to be open, vulnerable, kind, interested, and engaging makes you great company. If you aren’t great company on a date then lack of second dates will make this obvious. This gives you an opportunity to adjust your behavior. Be different? Yes!

You have the opportunity through dating to share who you are with another human being in a way that could leave a lasting impression. And a good one. You’d be surprised however that many people keep the most interesting aspects of themselves to themselves. Dating can tell you as much about yourself as it does another person. Especially after the date. It’s important to gauge how you feel about yourself before and after the date. This type of self-reflection can improve your enjoyment dating. If you don’t enjoy learning more about yourself, why would anyone else.

For Clarity

Does who you want to date exist? I know the answer is yes but I also know that many singles aren’t so sure. More so, they don’t realize how unsure they are about who they want to date. When you meet the people who embody the qualities that you think you want it allows you to get clear on what you really want.

What might not have bothered you in theory may turn out to be a deal breaker.

The only way to know is to be on a date with the person you consider your ideal. Maybe you think you want an ivy-league educated partner. That is until you meet the most fascinating entrepreneur, who has never taken so much as a course at community college.

The only way to know what you really like or feel good around is to experience those behaviors in person. Why aren’t you dating more of the people who have what you say you’re looking for.

How you feel around a person means so much more than what you have on your list. Hands on investigating is the only way to be sure that what you think you want makes you feel how you want to feel.

For Fun

The idea of dating isn’t fun for most people. The thought of finding people to date is even less appealing. The key to enjoying the dating process is to simply focus on having fun and not meeting your soulmate. You have to mentally prepare yourself to enjoy the date despite compatibility.

You have a good time, learn about someone new and keep it moving.

The key is to want to share the company of another person. Dating can only be enjoyable if you have invested interest in getting to know your date and not just vetting them for life long partnership. They might not be the one but they might know the one and be mature enough to introduce you.

If you worry about the investment then only plan dates around activities that you planned on doing anyway.

They key to dating more is to market yourself in an attractive way to potential dates. The secret formula to getting more dates and actually enjoying them is to change your perspective about dating. It’s not about work it’s about connection. It’s the ability to enjoy another person’s company and have them enjoy yours, so much so that it leads to more dates and possibly a relationship.

If you don’t learn from your dating experience then you aren’ taking advantage of what dating has to offer. Every date is an opportunity to make yourself a better catch for your ideal partner. Think of dating as perfecting your appeal. That’s a good thing. I hope this was helpful.

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How To Make Your First Dates Better

Famed matchmaker Rachel Greenwald once wrote: the purpose of a first date is to get a second date.

I couldn’t agree more.

The truth is, the purpose of the first date, is to prove that you can have fun together. So much so that it leads to another date. The concept of “getting to know” someone on the first date is grossly overrated. Human beings are far too guarded and far too skilled at deception to reveal their true selves over sushi and a few cocktails.

Going on a date with a complete stranger and expecting anything more than a good time is setting yourself up for failure.

You aren’t going to remember who said what about their childhoods or future ambitions. You’ll remember what you laughed about more than what you talked about and most importantly you’ll remember how the other person made you feel.

Having better first dates starts with setting the right intention.

First, you must make your date feel comfortable by removing all expectations.

  • What does this person want from me?
  • How can I get what I want from this person?

These questions often run through our minds on the first date. If you treat dating like a barter system or an exchange then you run the risk of your request being rejected. Your date may not want what you’re offering in exchange for what they have. So you must replace expectation and exchange with collaboration. Use phrases such as:

“Let’s just have fun tonight.”
“I just want to have a good time with you.”
“I just want to enjoy each other’s company.”

The previous statements imply togetherness. Now you and your date are on the same side and you both want the same thing, to have fun. Phrases like “let us”, “with you” and “each other’s” minimize expectation.

Next, you must make your date feel validated by avoiding judgment. On the first date you might learn information about your date that you turns you off.

“You don’t want kids- wrong answer. You have kids- wrong answer. You don’t cook- wrong answer. You live at home with your parents- wrong answer.”

It’s not your place to make them out to be a good person or a bad person. You are on the first date to decide if you can have fun together.

If you stop enjoying yourself because you feel that you aren’t compatible then end the date, thank them and never see them again.

Too often we are lead by unrealistic expectations. We want to “qualify” our dates based on our criteria but guess what. If the person that fit your list existed you would have met them already. When you start getting the impression that your date isn’t for you (even if you initially perceived them as perfect) make a mental note and move on. Don’t make a scene or worse let them know how you feel.

Keep the realistic expectation that in the moment all you want to do is have fun together and nothing more.

Lastly, you must make your date feel better about themselves. This might be the hardest part of the equation but dating isn’t about you and your feelings.

If you aren’t pandering to your date, complimenting your date and going out of your way to make your date feel like a million bucks then you shouldn’t be on that date. Just stay home.
It is your job to make your date feel good and it is their job to make you feel good, if one person doesn’t fulfill their duty then the date will not be a success.

Flatter your date. Accommodate your date. Be patient, understanding and engaged. Be gracious with your date and when it’s all said and done if you have fun together then go out again and if you don’t: don’t.

Divorce the idea that if someone isn’t acting right on a date or it didn’t live up to your expectation that it’s anyone’s fault.

There is a lid for every pot and this person just isn’t yours.

Don’t get angry with them because you wanted the date to be something it wasn’t. Use the criteria above to have the best date you can and if it fails then move on.

When you understand that your only goal on a first date is to have fun and secure a second date you’ll never have to wonder if it was a success.

I hope this was helpful.

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