People will date you if they like you.
Likability is the little mentioned factor in personal relationships and it’s incredibly important. In this video I talk about a key point in the best selling book, Get Anyone to Do Anything: Never Feel Powerless Again–With Psychological Secrets to Control and Influence Every Situation by David J. Lieberman
Too often single men and woman make the mistake of making it too easy to date them. They are incredibly accommodating and at times too eager to please. What studies have shown, which is what Dr. Lieberman mentions in the book, is that we like people more when we are asked to do favors for them.
Although doing favors can make us seem more likable when others do things for us, they like us more.
When you meet someone for the first time ask them to do you a small favor.
“Can you do something for me?”
“Can you do me a favor?”
And then follow with something easy such as,
- Tell me the time
- Watch my chair for me
- Hold my jacket a moment
Be creative and especially grateful. It will feel like you have given them the honor.
This is a great book in social skills. If you are interested in learning about human psychology this book will open your eyes to human behavior.
You can purchase the book here. This book is about the importance of not what you say but how you say it, when and to whom. It takes such small interactions like greetings, asking for favors and ascribes a method for success.
The concepts in the book are not those of manipulation but truly a way to get along with anyone. When dealing with strangers, as we so often do in the dating world, this book is a great guide to making strong impressions. It offers solid suggestions on how to correct misconceptions and get people in your corner and on your side. I hope this was helpful.