There are few experiences in life as awkwardly painful as a breakup.
It’s not just the obnoxious feeling of your heart and dignity being ripped right from you or the terror of no longer having a plus one. It’s also the unobstructed thrust into change that breakups force upon you.
The change of going from a “We” back to a “Me” is the quick rip of a band-aid from a freshly made wound.
There’s nothing that can prepare you for that kind of sting. If you’re past a certain age you’ve certainly been a part of a similar unpleasant incident as I’ve described.
Breakups are a bitch.
I believe that the right person is out there waiting for everyone. In the quest to find that special love, breakups are a necessary part of that journey. Breakups aren’t the worst things you can go through.
In fact, in hindsight they’re never as bad as they seemed in the moment.
If you’re in the midst of a breakup then yeah they suck ass but it’s just a temporary feeling. You’re adjusting to the change of being alone, of losing love and in some cases any hope for a marital future.
But don’t fret.
The last person, who broke up with you, did you a favor. It might sound like crazy-talk but trust me when I say you dodged a bullet.
I believe that when things aren’t working in our lives they find a way to come to an end. It’s like the bad habits that we can’t seem to shake until we’re forced to.
There might be multiple people better suited for you than your ex but they will have one key trait your former lover lacked: they will want to be with you. And not just claim you out of convenience but be as good to you as you are to them.
It’s possible that you were shitty to your ex, and you needed to learn to do better.
I truly believe that breaking up with someone is just about the rudest thing you can do to them. Talk about hurtful! It’s a flat out rejection.
It’s telling this person in your life that emptiness, depression and a cold bed is better than your relationship.
But when it’s done, it’s done for a valid reason. It isn’t the easy way out for either party but it’s always the best way.
If someone insists that you’re not the one for them, thank them! Because trust me, they’re onto something.
YOU ARE NOT THE ONE FOR THEM!
Remind yourself of that point. Repeatedly!
And if your partner has left you for someone else, it’s an even stronger case to prove my point. Breakups are rude, cruel and offensive. If someone broke up with you, accept that they did you a favor.
It might not feel like it but TRUST me, they totally saved your butt.
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