What do you do when potential dates only want to text but just don’t reply in a timely manner?
Nothing is more annoying than waiting for a text message reply except possibly when the response is a mere: k. Like it or not, texting has become a certified method of communication. We use text as a way to interact with almost everyone in our lives so when it comes to dating, most singles feel more comfortable texting than speaking.
If you have an iphone you know what it’s like to hang on anxiously as those speech bubbles flash tentatively on your screen only to have them disappear with no answer.
As if to say, “I thought about it.”
But what happens when you’re in text only communication mode and the man seems to lose track of time when it comes to his replies. It’s frustrating!
Men aren’t responding to your text for two reasons:
- They’re doing something they find more important than texting you
- They don’t have anything to say
If there’s one thing I’ve learned about texting with men it’s this: text a man, like a man.
When you send texts to a man in the same way he texts you, you’re going to get a quicker response than if you text like a woman. First, think of why you’re texting him in the first place. More often than not you’re trying to get him to ask you out or show you some attention.
You want to see him but he hasn’t made the moves so you’ve decided to help him along via a text. If you haven’t heard from the man you’re into for some time instead of just texting, ‘hey’ or ‘what’s up’ think about the way men text women to get their attention.
“Hey sexy man.”
“I bet you look so hot right now.”
These phrases might seem forward but they’re in fact very playful. They are the language men use to communicate with women so they are especially appealing for a man to get from women.
Does that sound like “game”? It should because plain and simple it is.
You don’t want a man to think that every time you text each other it’s going to be an hour long intense conversation. You’re texting him so that he thinks about you and feels good knowing that you’re thinking about him.
Your text doesn’t always have to require a response. Even if he texts you back, leave him wanting more but not responding. If you want to plan a date with him send a brief text about certain activities or restaurants.
Keep in mind that this is hinting, a form of communication that men don’t always understand.
Send a picture of a restaurant or activity and ask, “Have you been?”
Follow up with, “I really want to try it.”
Suggestive texts intrigue men. They will respond quickly to encourage the courtship or to shut it down.
He might say, “You should.”
But if he likes you he will say, “We should.”
If you approach your texts as a way to open communication and not just when you want something men are quicker to respond. Keep your replies, answers and texts brief. Stay true to the twitter rule of texting: no more than 140 characters. Just in case you can’t keep count just be to the point.
The longer your messages the less likely a man is to respond. Most men don’t want to solely communicate via text they are just lazy. As a culture we all are. Leave somethings unread in the courtship and save then for face to face conversations.
The reason a man might not respond to your messages quickly is because you’ve already told him everything he needs to know in one (or three) texts. There’s nothing for him to ask so he won’t text you until he has something to say.
One last thing to remember when texting a man is: have confidence.
A needy text will come across that way. Be confident that he hasn’t hit you up because he’s genuinely busy. Don’t get so anxious about hearing from him that you become desperate. Your anxiety will translate via SMS message. If a man isn’t responding as quickly as you would like to your messages either make it known or stick to the old-fashioned phone call.
I hope these tips help.