Are you tired of being single? Do you want a boyfriend?
As much as I wish more single women could enjoy dating and their single life, so much so that it would take a miracle to pry them away, I understand that there comes a time when you want a commitment.
You want stability in a partner that makes you feel good. You want a man. I get it.
What I’ve noticed about single women is that many are afraid of taking a step back and letting men pursue them.
When I urge women to let men pursue them, they’re often hesitant and full of excuses. The two most popular being:
Men are shy
I intimidate men
There’s a crazy science about getting what you want out of life, when you commit to something, its likely to happen.
Tell yourself that you’re only going to date men who pursue you.
You should only date the men who approach you, call you, ask you on a date, follow-up with you, and then ask you out again. Don’t trick yourself into believing that you should go after what you want or “help a man out” by offering your name and number.
Yes of course, there was that one woman that one time, who met the man of her dreams by slipping him her digits, YOU ARE NOT HER!
You are NOT that woman who can go after every man you find attractive and successfully lure him into a relationship. If you were you would and you certainly wouldn’t need this blog.
Women who pursue men enjoy it, have control issues or are successful at it. In any case, that aint’ you!
I don’t believe women should ask men on dates and I don’t believe that a woman should call any man she wants a serious relationship with.
I will be real with you, 100%. I’ve called men. I’ve asked men out. I’ve offered my name and number on a platter and made dating me the difficulty level of Candyland. I went on several dates and after all that, didn’t end up with one boyfriend.
Women have to chill with the idea that dating is so hard that we need to make it easy on men by doing all or most of the pursuing, inviting and initiating.
Stop making excuses for a courtship that is bullshit.
When you meet a man who is interested in dating you he will call you, he will ask you out and he will do so respectfully. If you don’t believe that you’re worth that type of attention or effort you’re wrong.
Not only are you worth it, men are happy to do it because you are worth it. They’re excited and proud to be with a woman who has standards and requirements.
If a man doesn’t want to do what you require in order to date you then he might not be the man for you and that’s ok. Think of the time you’ll save yourself by letting the behavior speak for itself.