Why do you think you can’t when you can? There are so many things we tell ourselves that we can’t do.
Whether its work as hard as we should, be as kind as we should, discipline ourselves when we should or take the chances that we know we should. The times we should be motivating ourselves into doing, we simply say, “I can’t.”
Typical excuses for I can’t are:
I’ve never done it before.
Those who have done it are nothing like me.
I’ll fail if I try, so why even bother.
But at the end of the day, they are just excuses. When it comes to our everyday lives what we can and can’t do boils down to what we believe is possible. In order to change your life, you have to take chances. You have to be ok with the outcome no matter what. When we start to accept that we can do the things necessary to create change it only means we believe in ourselves.
Do you believe that you can change the direction of your love life?
Regardless of how you feel, trying is telling yourself that failure isn’t an option but it’s also not the end of the world. And honestly, is failure any worse than where you are today.
When we find it difficult to approach potential dates because we are afraid, it’s important to remember that you can, you’re just choosing not to.
The basic ingredients in seeming confident is experience, trust and positive thinking.
When you see beautiful singles who seem self-assured, successful and desired, it isn’t that they possess abilities that you don’t. But the essential ingredient in successful dating is confidence.
If you believe that nothing is holding you back except your ability to try new things, your fear of trying new things will diminish. But as the old saying goes, if you believe you can or you believe you can’t you’re right.