The Dating Truth

There are few people that I dislike. I’m a private person in general so not wanting to spend time around someone doesn’t really mean I don’t like them. I probably just don’t like them that much.

That being said, people like me back.

There isn’t a long line of kidney donors or anything but I’m generally greeted with warmth and pleasure when I’m in the presence of others.

I know several singles, and people in general, who are not liked. There are numerous reasons to why but typically their presence is not a pleasure. Instead of welcoming them, others try to avoid them.

In fact, there are some people who just get on other peoples gaht damned nerves.

If you’re single being liked is essential to your dating success. I can’t specifically explain why people don’t like you because I don’t know you but lets forget that for now.

Keep in mind that I’m being general but when others don’t like you (assuming you’re the one reading so you might be the one with the problem) it’s typically for two reasons.

1. THE MOST IMPORTANT: They don’t recognize your value in their life

2. They don’t have anything in common with you.

Simply put, if people don’t see value in you or find you relatable, they won’t like you.

This goes beyond the concept that we are all human beings with value and our high worth but when you’re only looking for one partner, that doesn’t really matter.

What matters is that people should like you and here is how to get them to.

(Even when they never have before)

I want to warn you that these actions require the intention. Wouldn’t we all love to just roll out of bed the most lovable person on the planet but that hasn’t happened. I suspect it won’t unless you put in some work. If you’re willing to, read on.

The art of conversation starts with listening. That’s pretty much all you need to know but some of us aren’t good listeners, then what.

Compliment and agree. I used to take myself very seriously. I realized that I could tell people, “You’re right.” Then never see them again and sleep perfectly fine at night.

When having a conversation with someone who you don’t know very well, don’t be afraid to stroke their ego a little bit by listening. And agreeing.

More often than not, people start conversations just to talk about what they want to talk about. This typically leads to them talking more because it’s likely they’re an authority on the subject.

Don’t do this.

What you have to understand is that in order for you to get to know if you like this person, you have to get to know this person. Let them talk about themselves.

There are lots of people who feel confident dominating conversations but unless you’re incredibly physically attractive, these people are never the most popular.

Take a moment to notice how much you’re talking in the conversation.

I talk a lot and its something I’m constantly worried about, so as much as I can help it, I make it a point to listen more than I speak.

If you can do that, I guarantee that people will like you more.

Thoughts?