Purgatory (Lat., “purgare”, to make clean, to purify) a place or condition of temporal punishment for those who, departing this life in God’s grace, are, not entirely free from venial faults, or have not fully paid the satisfaction due to their transgressions.
Sort of like your current relationship, which hasn’t found it’s way to commitment although it’s mostly exclusive and entirely time-consuming. Not to mention stressful as hell.
Change has to come to everything.
Anything that doesn’t change or evolve will die. Now is the time for you to decide if your current dating situation can be prayed into a relationship or if you just need to move on.
Most people in these purgatory relationships need to move on. You’ve passed the honeymoon period into the reality that you want different things. You know that you’re not as happy as you could or would be if the relationship progressed but it hasn’t.
There is no middle ground with relationship purgatory, sorry to tell you. Hell sucks and Heaven is amazing but you’re not in heaven are you? So what can you do?
I’ve been in this situation all too many times. Mostly because by the time I want a relationship its way too late to make the transition. My only choice is to stay in hell’s evil twin or to leave.
The plus side of leaving a relationship that isn’t quite exclusive is that you’re absolutely free to date other people, to even find the love of your life.
You’re no longer technically single, you ARE single!
It might seem like the downside but it’s truly not. Why do you want to be with someone who has made it clear they only like you just enough. Not a lot, or a little. Not even enough to make you happy, just enough to keep you around and quiet at that.
The sad thing about relationship purgatory is there isn’t anyone in it that doesn’t know that they’re there. You’re a tortured soul too helpless to help yourself.
I don’t know you or your relationship but if you want a little more than what you’re getting now, the only prayer you need is the strength to get the going. I know you don’t want to hear it but its true.
If you think the person that you’re dating has the capacity to love you the way that you need to be loved, by all means stay. Don’t listen to me, what do I know.
Dating however is about finding the right person, and having fun along the way. It might not sound like the heaven you were looking for but if you want to be delivered from your current limbo it’s not a bad plan B.