The Dating Truth

How would you like to meet a potential date everyday?

Sometimes dating is depressing because you really just want one person that you think is awesome and vice versa. How many dates wouldn’t most singles trade just to have one person who could make them feel “special”?

I already know the answer, all of them. No matter how much any of us enjoys our single lifestyle, we have a need and desire to express love and be loved.

Unfortunately getting to the “one” sometimes requires going through the sea of plenty of fish and a couple of frogs.

There is no way to enjoy dating if at first you don’t enjoy meeting people. Right now you hate it because you feel like others are judging you. Why not, you’re judging them.

Every time we meet a potential date we can’t help but fast-forward to the future, is this person the “one”. We hate dating because we want to know if we’re wasting our time or not, and a host of other questions.

I can’t answer them. Let’s take it one step at a time. Let’s meet people who want to date us and go from there. The question I’m always asked is where do you meet these people.

Where can you meet quality potential dates and actually get them to agree to go out with you?

Obviously, you’re best bet is where there is little to no competition. You want to go places where your dates aren’t expecting to meet. As with every man I’ve ever met, it was always in the unlikely of circumstances, the difference is that I was aware enough not to let them get away.

I want you to do the same.

A few years ago I thought I didn’t have any control over my love life. I did what many singles tend to do, especially women, I read books. I thought if I know how to act in a relationship I would be happier in a relationship then I realized I wasn’t in a relationship. AND I was never going to be in one if I never met the right person.

I wish I could tell you that it’s just a matter of luck but it actually takes effort, meeting these fantastic people. Why? Because everyone wants to meet them, date them and claim them for their own. I know this from experience. I’m a catch, I’m attractive, and lots of men want to date me. This isn’t a personal opinion, although I have a healthy self-esteem, it’s what I experience everyday. I know its possible to attract these people into your life because that’s how I meet all the time.

You can meet potential dates going about your day, in the very same places you already frequent, you only need to be aware and prepared.

The best places to meet single men and women that you have never thought of.

Starbucks In case you haven’t noticed the country is going through an economic downturn. This is driving a lot of eligible singles to go back to school or start their own business; most of them are moving their office and library to the comforts of Starbucks and other coffee shops.

As someone who works from home, I can tell you it’s sometimes the hardest place to actually get work done. Many professionals who are starting businesses, studying for degrees are doing so at local coffee shops.

You may need to try a few to find out which ones have the best traffic of good-looking people but it’s worth it. Not only will people approach you or you them. There are lots to talk about.

Take a book or your own projects and don’t be afraid to start conversations.

The Gas Station- All you need to ask is, “How do you like that car, I just test drove one last week.” Lie or not, it’s a great conversation starter. If their interested you can admit that you haven’t been looking for new cars you just wanted to say hello and couldn’t think of anything else. Trust me, they will be flattered.

It doesn’t matter how you start a conversation, it just matters that you start one. I have gone to extra lengths to talk to good-looking men at the gas station and I did it because my love life is important to me.

Hotel bars- No one ever thinks of going to a hotel in the city that they live in, unless its Miami, NYC or LA. In my city I often frequent hotel bars because I know that’s where the men are.

In the past going to a hotel was the game plan of groupies and gold diggers but there are many men and women in sales and consulting that frequently travel. If you don’t think there are enough potential dates in your city you need to start checking for imports.

The Mall. If you didn’t know that America loves to spend money, I want you to know that America loves to spend money. I enjoy to people watch but I find that any mall is a great place to meet eligible singles because when people have “free” time, they enjoy retail therapy. Its a one stop shop for most people to get what they need, be it something for themselves or a thoughtful gift for someone else.

It’s a relaxed environment and there is no competition. Many singles will have their guards down and it’s very easy to say, “Excuse, do you know where there’s an ATM?” (Because that map is just too complicated)

Are you ready to take your dating life to the next level? I believe in you!

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