In dating, it’s very easy to feel inferior. The world is littered with incredibly beautiful women, who seemingly have the right clothes, career and attitude to get any man they choose. If this isn’t you then competing with the woman who has it all can be incredibly frustrating.
So how do you compete with beautiful women?
The short answer is, you can’t. The long answer is: you really can’t. The truth is however, that you don’t have to. Understanding attraction is the secret women that can position any woman, regardless of her looks in the running for the man of her dreams. Being beautiful and feeling beautiful are not mutually exclusive.
Dating can be easier if you are good-looking and well put together but there is very little difference in men’s eyes about who is prettier than who. What does register with men, is how attracted they are to a woman. You can create attraction with any man more so than a woman who you believe is prettier.
Never automatically assume men will want the most beautiful woman in the room. If you assume that another woman is prettier and that guys will want her over then you’re half-right. Men will want her but men will want you too.
A man will want you even more if you’re easy to get along with, playful and smart.
The key to winning over any man, even one who seems out of your league, are to remember the following.
Regardless if you consider yourself, pretty, ugly, funny, smart or dumb it really doesn’t matter as long as you’re around. One if my favorite movies , ‘Just Wright’ , starring Queen Latifah, is a prime example of how proximity breeds affection.
If you’re around the man that you want enough, he will consider dating you. The opportunity to date him will arise but you whether you make a lasting connection is up to you. If you are shy, meek, sloppy or lame then no amount of time together will create desire. If you are fun, sexy, and self-confidant then a more attractive woman would have to work twice as hard to steal him away.
Men appreciate a woman who can keep him stimulated no matter who he is doing. If you work together, share mutual activities, belong to the same gym or have other shared interests that will put you by his side then you will be far more attractive to him than any other woman he would’ve met in the club or at a bar.
MOST MEN DON’T DATE BEAUTIFUL WOMEN
Some of the world’s most beautiful woman are single. Jennifer Aniston, Naomi Campbell, Cameron Diaz, Jennifer Lopez just to name a few. Beauty is in the the eyes of the beholder. Although studies have scientifically proven symmetry makes you more beautiful the man you want to date probably hasn’t read that study. In fact, a good-looking woman can actually intimidate men.
A relationship needs attraction and chemistry but those aren’t created by looks alone. A man wants to feel needed and wanted and around beautiful women, who attract a lot of attention, that isn’t always possible. There are several negative connotations associated to women who are perceived as “very beautiful”. They can create feelings of insecurity, jealousy and inferiority in men that make a relationship impossible.
Men are okay with just a pretty girl. This isn’t meant to be taken negatively. Don’t assume that the man you desire feels attractive or secure. Men have a tendency to ‘out kick their coverage’ which means pursue a woman who is out of his league.
If man finds you attractive then you are his “type.” What you believe to be prettier women might be, but it doesn’t mean he wants to date them.
While it maybe intimidating standing next to or in the same room as women you consider extremely beautiful they are no more a threat than a luxury car is to a Honda.
We date the people we feel will meet our needs and standards. Some people have to have luxury no matter what but others will be practical about their future and that’s the man you should pursue.
YOU COULD BE PRETTIER
No matter how satisfied you are with your looks, you could be better looking with a little more effort. Being satisfied with your looks is a personal journey but once you develop your standard for beauty meeting it is the most important thing you can do for your confidence.
Every person has his or her own standard for beauty but when we don’t meet them it can make us feel very insecure. If you allow yourself to fall short of what you consider to be beautiful you will never feel beautiful. You will always feel in competition with other women. It is your own personal standards that dictate your confidence. There are two solutions to improving your looks.
Accept yourself for what you have not for what you think someone else will want.
Accept what you can’t change and change what you can. If you are determined to compete with beautiful women then meet your own standards.
BEAUTIFUL WOMEN WANT DIFFERENT MEN THAN YOU
I consider myself to be beautiful. I have personally dealt with jealous women who felt like I was going to take their man. I didn’t want their man. In fact, I have never found myself in competition for a man with a woman who was more attractive.
Beautiful women, those who are confident, are not likely to compete for a man. If it appears that a man is choosing looks over substance then it’s not a man that a high- value woman would want.
Chances are unless you’re vying for the handsome, wealthy, 6’4 professional athlete, actor or millionaire entrepreneur there is little to no competition for the man that you may want. In fact, give the man you’re after enough credit to believe in his taste in women. If he’s choosing a life partner based on looks alone, he might not be the person for you.
The truth is, beauty comes from a sense of gratitude for all things beautiful. If you assume other women are better looking then be the first to compliment them and surround yourself with those you find attractive. You will be more attractive by proxy.
If you find yourself feeling competitive with other women recognize that who you want wants you for what you have to offer. Accentuate the better qualities you possess and leave the rest to opportunity meeting preparation.
There will always be someone who seems to have themselves more put together than you are but it doesn’t make them your competition.
I hope this was helpful.