The short answer is, you can’t. The long answer is you really can’t. None of us have the privilege of calling up Jennifer Aniston for confirmation but trust me it’s the truth.
As much as dating is about being good-looking and well put together, there is very little difference in men’s eyes about who is prettier than who. Fine is fine, as far as they’re concerned. I know it seems impossible to believe.
When we as women see a tall, big boobed, longhaired Goddess in a mini dress, we automatically assume men will want her. We’re halfway right, men will want her but men will want you too. Men will want you even more if you’re easy to get along with and smart.
There is no way to compete with a woman who is, in your eyes prettier than you. Stop trying. What you need to understand are the following tips to help you stay competitive in the game of dating, no matter how attractive the competition.
Proximity rules. Pretty, ugly, funny, smart or dumb it really doesn’t matter as long as you’re around. The movie, ‘Just Wright’ is a prime example of how proximity breeds affection. If you’re around the man that you want enough, he will consider dating you. Not if you’re shy, meek, sloppy and lame then no. If you are you’re same old fun sexy self that he would’ve met in the club, then yes.
Most men don’t really want beautiful women. Again, I know you don’t have Jennifer Aniston’s, Halle Berry, Naomi Campbell’s number but trust me, they would agree. Men are okay with just a pretty girl. Someone that his insecurities can handle. If you’re more plain than super sexy, you’re kind of winning. Several men, for all their arrogance and machismo can’t stand another man looking at their woman. Not talking to or hitting on just straight up looking. That perceived attention whoring is what got Jennifer Lopez traded in for Jennifer Gardner.
While it maybe intimidating standing next to or in the same room as women you consider extremely beautiful they are no more a threat than a new car is to a pre-owned car. Some people have to have new and some people just want to choose what’s best for their needs.
You could be prettier. Every person has his or her own standard for beauty and unfortunately we rarely meet them. Although sometimes it mirrors society’s skewed view, singles tend to think what they aren’t is prettier than what they are. Luckily, we are all not aroused by the same qualities. If we fall short of what we consider to be beautiful, it’s likely we’ll feel inferior to others. If you think being thin with long hair is pretty then you need to lose weight and get extensions. If you allow yourself to fall short of what you consider to be beautiful you will never feel beautiful. An easier solution, accept yourself for what you have not for what you think someone else will want.
Accept what you can’t change and change what you can. If you think olive complexions are gorgeous but you don’t have one, understand that if God wanted you otherwise, he would have made you otherwise. No one will ever be Kim Kardashian, you may want to look like her but you will never be her.
Beautiful women don’t want what you want. I consider myself to be beautiful. I have dealt with jealous women who felt like I was going to take their raggedy little man. I didn’t want their man. Chances are unless you’re vying for the handsome, wealthy, 6’4 man that almost all women want nobody wants your man. You may have a crush on a guy that’s wonderful but it doesn’t mean beautiful women will feel the same. If he’s a multi-millionaire look out but if not, rest assured you’re competition is not that steep.
The truth is, no one can date everyone. And as excited, as Oprah’s audience members were to get a free car, some of them just couldn’t afford those taxes.
Beautiful women have their own agenda and it’s not to get in the way of your love life. You can’t compete with them and the good news is, you don’t have to.