The Dating Truth

I know I am but summer to your heart, and not the full four seasons of the year- Edna St. Vincent Millay

There are two killer thoughts that take anything positive and instantly turn it into a disaster; that’s jealousy and self-doubt. When you are looking for love this summer there is one thing to remember, the right person for you is only for you because you are only for them.

This isn’t to say that there is one person on earth for all of us, of course not. But keep in mind that the person you are looking for is also searching.

While it may seem that they have tons of options and you’re lucky they even looked your direction realize that this isn’t the case. This is your perception.

When you meet someone with who you feel you have a connection or who you feel complete with, remind yourself that this is who you were meant to date. This is what you have looked for. This person has been brought to you as a result of your thoughts, prayers and right action.

If you want to find love this summer you must maintain a positive attitude. You will find the right person as long as you remind yourself, “I do not seek I know.”

2. Entertain no doubt

I once heard Oprah say that doubt means don’t but I say doubt means do it anyway. As badly as single men and women want to meet potential dates they are so unsure of themselves and their appeal. Let’s assume you’ve now mastered the art of looking your best yet you’re still riddled with insecurities, jealousy and self-doubts. You have to accept that you have wanted love in your life and the right person is coming. Are you going to be too afraid to approach them, interact with them or will you be ready?

When you meet good-looking people, don’t compare yourself to them and lament on what they have that you don’t. The person that is for you will not be concerned with what other people have.

If you feel your confidence slipping because you’ve met someone who is confident, self-assured and attractive remind yourself that this is what you have attracted. Those great qualities, in this wonderful person are what you have waited for. This is no time to think, “I don’t deserve this, he or she is too good for me.” This is what your energy has brought you.

If you meet a potential date and you are nervous, anxious or overwhelmed don’t be afraid that they are turned off. Do not seek their approval- know that if they are right for you they will accept you.

Entertain no doubt.

When you think of doubt, think of fear. There are a million and one scenarios where you are instantly drawn to a person but you don’t speak to them, you are scared to approach them. Numerous times may have come and gone when you had the opportunity to show a little more interest, engage someone a little more in conversation, flirt a little harder or give more compliments. Maybe you held back because you assumed they weren’t interested. Now is the time to entertain no doubt.

But don’t rely solely on this belief when you meet someone who you really want. Apply it just as willfully when you meet someone that you don’t. Too often singles believe that they should give everyone “ a chance”. A chance at what, proving that they’re exactly what you don’t want?

You don’t need to entertain doubt when your instincts are telling you no. That feeling that makes you hesitate is worth listening to when you know someone isn’t for you. Don’t let loneliness or worst being polite get in the way of listening to your gut. When doubt is telling you don’t, listen.

I know it sounds self-helpish. Maybe it’s a little fluffy but understand that in you, I have no doubt that you can handle rejection. I have no doubt that you can pass up someone that isn’t what you want. I have no doubt that if you embarrassed yourself tomorrow or the next day, or the next day; you would pick yourself up and move on. I have no doubts in what you’re capable of, so why do you?

Your mantra on doubt should be:

Entertain no doubt. Refuse to accept worry, hurry or fear. I will think only positively. Whatever I choose is mine; whatever I reject shall never touch me.

I’m glad that you’ve decided that you really want to find someone to bond with and possibly have a relationship with. The worst thing you can do when you meet this person, who is also looking for you, is to ruin the experience with doubts.

What doubts have held you back in the past; The Dating Truth.com wants to know.

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