I don’t mind living in a man’s world as long as I can be a woman in it.
After years of dating it has become painfully obvious to me what men are looking for. Despite what you heard from men (I have found some to be liars and at times confused) it is not just blowjobs and sandwiches.
So what do men want?
To feel like a man.
I know you don’t want to hear this but I’m you’re girl, I just want to tell you the truth. You don’t make men feel good.
A man wants to feel manly and in some way, shape or form you’re taking that feeling away from him. I don’t know exactly what you’re doing and he probably doesn’t either. All this man knows is he’s not feeling that proud feeling he’s used to. He’s been emasculated.
Men are sensitive and insecure, similar to women but they hate being reminded of this. God forbid you treat a man like a human instead of your hero. Not to say you should place your date on a pedestal, just avoid the following negative behaviors because men hate them:
- Being demanding
(I know and you know that I could go on)
If you know anything about human nature it should resonate that no one feels good about what’s listed above. And yes, men could make women happy if they followed similar guidelines but let’s face it: this is about your lovelife, don’t wait on a man to change.
Men are wildly attracted to women who are feminine and act like women. Unfortunately, over time, society has placed negative connotations on being feminine.
Being girly isn’t a bad thing. What women need to accept is there’s a lot of strength in being a woman. (You’re body is made to be strong to withstand the pain of childbirth) I often hear females bragging about growing up a tomboy or growing up ‘playing with the boys’ as if it’s some badge of honor. I played with Barbie’s. So what of it?
Just because men have outstanding PR in the strength department doesn’t mean that if you act like a man it proves you’re a strong capable person. I’m a firm believer in being a lady. Just because you can do for yourself doesn’t mean you should deny a man from doing it for you.
No woman should try to prove to a man that she’s capable of paying for her own meal, opening her own doors or pumping her own gas. When a man wants to do something nice for you, let him! The worst thing you can do is prevent a man from doing the aforementioned, or act offended if he does.
Of course he knows you can do these things for yourself, how else would you have survived on earth or at least gotten to the date. Unless you’re dating a complete moron (which if you are slap yourself ) general conversation will relay to a man how independently you live your life.There is no need to display your strength in masculine ways.
When I’m home alone, I kill spiders. When I get a flat tire, I put on a spare then call AAA not the guy that I’m dating. When I’m with a man however, he can change all the tires and kill all the creepy crawly things his heart desires.
I know many women think they’re impressing a man when they regale him with stories of their heroics. What they’re really doing is advertising, “I’m a bad b*tch and I don’t need you.”
It’s not that you shouldn’t be proud of yourself if you’re able to handle challenges on your own, lift heavy boxes and deal with the jackassery of Pep Boys. But if you spend enough time with this man he’ll see it on his own. There should be more impressive aspects to your personality other than being able to “handle your business”.
Women tend to equate strength with the things men do and weakness in what women do. If I’ve perfected the smokey eye or sewed a few buttons on my gorgeous Guess military jacket, I’m going to spread the news. You’re a woman and men really like that about you, act like one.
Allowing a man to feel like a man isn’t about downplaying one’s capabilites or putting on a damsel in distress act either. It’s about highlighting why he needs a woman in his life in the first place. The woman who can distinctly remind a man of what he’s missing is a keeper. Strength isn’t in muscles, power or throwing your weight around. If a man wants to exert his bravado and buy you a drink, don’t assume its an insult. You don’t have to send him a bottle in return to be on his level. All he really wants, is to get your attention, not make you feel like you can’t afford your own beverage.
The point is that a man is looking for a woman, a partner not himself (unless he’s a selfish bastard). He can express masculinity in various ways and appreciate it, as long as it’s positive. It’s typically a great quality if a man is a gentleman, don’t take the honor away from him by being his competition.
You wouldn’t want a man who only talked about ‘Sex and The City’ and shoes just to relate with you. So don’t feel it’s necessary to talk sports and cars when you’re with him. Even if you like them too, eventually he’ll figure that out.
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