Put your hand on a hot stove for a minute, and it seems like an hour. Sit with a pretty girl for an hour, and it seems like a minute. That’s relativity.— Albert Einstein
It blows my mind that some women don’t get calls back after the first date. I don’t want to say that men are easy to please but men are easy to please. As you should already know, the goal of the first date is to get a second date. Obvs, if he’s not calling you, your ass has failed. But how?
Where did you go wrong?
What did you do to make this man feel he knew enough about you to make an executive decision to never see you again?
Well, it boils down to one reason that trumps all other factors: you just weren’t fun.
Men don’t need logical, elaborate reasons to do anything other than; it’s fun. If something is fun, as stupid as a woman might think it is, a man will likely have no problems taking part. If you had a first date, that in your mind went amazing but the man never called you for another, there is one main reason is he just didn’t have fun with you.
Some women aren’t interested in making a date fun for a man, for them it’s an interview. They want to know more about him, if he’s good enough for them and if he’s what they’ve been looking for. More than anything, why is he still single, what’s wrong with him. Good luck with that.
So what do men consider fun?
Spending time with you is fun. You’ve already got an in because men consider spending time with an attractive woman in general, fun. This is why many men don’t want to go on real “dates” or plan ahead of time because in their mind, anything they do with you is going to be fun. (It’s not always him being lazy)
This is hard for women to understand because we don’t feel this way. Some men’s company without a delicious meal, drinks and an action packed movie isn’t fun at all.
For this reason be easy-going. Stay away from polarizing subjects especially ones you’re extremely passionate about. Save the passion for your next date. Talk about general topics and things you love, not just subjects that you love to argue over.
Being flirtatious is fun. Men love flirting. (The ones that are good at it) They like making women smile and the sound of you laughing at their corny ass jokes. Flirting done right is sensual, stimulating and arousing. It’s a game of the mind that men love to play. Men like to feel like you’re into them not like you’re scared of them. We all get nervous on dates but we’re adults and there is an expectation of expressed interest. Otherwise, no second date for you.
Make him feel good is fun. Everyone enjoys positive experiences and the person with the higher self-esteem (ahem honey, that’s you) is going to be responsible for leading the charge. It baffles me how women expect to get to know a man on a first date by doing all the talking.
According to the rules of seduction the person who says the least, has to most power. Compliment him, tell him he’s smart but let him finish a sentence. Ask him interesting questions and most importantly let him do the talking. Men may not like to communicate feelings but get them on a funny story involving their buddies or they’re favorite episode of ‘Family Guy’ and they never shut up.
Did I miss anything? If you know other kinds of fun leave your comment below.