Imagine you’re shopping at a clothing store or a grocery store and behind the counter is a very attractive woman.
You smile, you think that you’re flirting and you know you’re attracted to her. She’s smiling too and being extra friendly, you consider starting a conversation but you have no idea what to say. All you can manage is to sign the pinpad and be on your way purchases in hand.
Has this scenario ever happened to you?
Have you ever in been in prime position to make a move on a potential date but you did nothing?
Not only does this happen to numerous men, if you’re on the receiving end of the exchange it also feels defeating.
If you find yourself in the presence of a desirable woman, with the opportunity to speak with her for at least a few uninterrupted minutes, I suggest you do the following:
- Boldly compliment- try “I’m sorry, I just have to say that you have the most piercing eyes”
- Ask a neutral question- try “ If I wanted to go to the nearest ATM, where would it be?”
- Refer to the current situation- try (at a grocery store) “ I don’t even like yogurt but I read its good for your diet”
- Close quickly- try “I have a busy night but I’d like to take you out, I’ll take your number.”
This may come as a shocker but sometimes men don’t get the hints that women are dropping. A woman is not likely to tell you she thinks you’re attractive and would like to go out with you. If you had it like that, you would not be reading thedatingtruth.com.
When you open with a compliment a woman feels special, you elicit a positive feeling. She should react by smiling and saying “thank you”. If she isn’t interested, she might snap at you or give you a stern look. Either way, you know whether to proceed or not.
Secondly, when you ask a neutral question you take the conversation to a “safe” zone. She doesn’t have to watch her response. She will answer the question and the more in depth her answer the more she’s into you. If she answers curtly and makes no eye contact she’s probably shutting you down.
Once you’ve made it past the casual conversation, you can again engage in something safe but personal. You tell her something about yourself and your lifestyle. Women read into everything. By just saying you read about your health a woman can draw a thousand conclusions.
This woman’s mind will swarm with ideas about you if she is interested she will respond. If a woman is interested she will counter your comment with a personal tidbit of her own.
Lastly, the close; make a quick and painless exit, like ripping off a band-aid. Don’t give her a chance to think about it and don’t ask for her number. Demand it, command it, and make a statement.
This kind of flirting is a process. You make one move at a time so you don’t overwhelm the woman and you judge her reactions as you go along. She doesn’t know what’s happening but you do. You are getting her number and you have to believe that before you proceed, you have to believe that it will work. And trust me it will work. The more you do it, the easier it will be to read the cues, the faster you can procure a number and start getting to know this woman.
I believe in taking control of your dating life, success is in your hands. What’s the worst than can happen?