Two Easy Phrases To Become An Instant Pickup Artist

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In the pick-up artist language ‘day game’ is defined as the ability to successfully hit on/ pick-up a woman during the day.

You can measure your success depending on if you get a woman’s phone number or if you are able to create an instant date out of the moment. Say you meet a woman at a book store, if she agrees to grab a cup of coffee with you in a near by Starbucks, that’s successful ‘day game’.

Women can also execute skilled ‘day game’ by approaching a man then getting him to take over the flirtation by asking her out and taking her phone number. Whether you are a man or a woman, it’s important to practice and master the art of ‘day game’ for many reasons. Single men and women resent that clubs, bars and evening events are the only way to meet potential dates. The benefits of ‘day game’ are that people look and act more of themselves during the day, singles are less guarded and of course almost no competition.

You may never have considered yourself pick-up artist material in the past. Some may look at the concept negatively but just for the sake of this exercise imagine yourself an expert PUA. You are out and about, possibly on your lunch break and you see an attractive stranger, what should you say?

Think for a moment what makes a single man or woman approach a potential date? Most likely its not only that we find this person attractive but we are also very close to the person. I have, however, been victim of men who decided to cross streets, make u-turns and go excessively out of their way to get my attention but most likely we speak to attractive strangers because they are close to us; physically. Proximity is your first step in approaching a potential partner. You never want to indicate that you’ve been working up the nerve to speak to this person and you surely don’t want to scare them by coming out of nowhere. When you are in a close, safe, distance to whom you want to talk to, make a move.

A Bold Compliment or “You look like…”

When men hit on me, I get overwhelmed with the feeling that they want something from me. I am too busy for them and I need to keep things moving. Statements especially compliments create pause in most people. A busy single might not have time for “Hey what’s your sign” but tell them they look like Brad Pitt and suddenly they are all ears.

I have to admit that my favorite compliment is when men tell I’m the most beautiful woman they have ever seen. I always have time to hear that. Compliments work best with a little exaggeration; words like gorgeous, beautiful, amazing, breathtaking, fantastic, etc always break the ice. If you see a good looking man, stop him and tell him his jacket or tie is absolutely gorgeous. Ask him where he got it.

A single man can stop a woman anytime to tell her that she looks incredibly stunning it will undoubtedly capture her attention. Most adults single or not, will take a moment to receive a sincere sounding compliment. Now that you have their attention, I suggest just for practice sake that you move on. If you find that you have chemistry with one or two people, it’s likely that they will keep the exchange going. If you feel confident enough to continue flirting by all means, do it.

Another great statement you can make is using the phrase “You look like…” I first came across this technique in a video post by social expert Alex Coulson. When you find yourself in perfect proximity to an attractive person say, “You look like you need a red bull,” or “You look like you have an amazing job.”

It’s a quirky, off-hand; unexpected comment that always breaks the ice. It’s flirtatious in that it can be completely silly or dead on. You might say, “You look like you’ve had a hard day,” and watch as this stranger reveals the perils of their life.

Single men and women like to be approached. It’s flattering. The most important technique isn’t quite what you say but to convey the message that want nothing in return. You don’t want to seem like you’re only saying hello so that you can ask for a number.

What’s the best compliment you’ve ever received? Leave your comment below.

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10 thoughts on “Two Easy Phrases To Become An Instant Pickup Artist

  1. very interesting blog, several interesting entries that I agree upon. ex: dont appear cheap, dont say things are too expensive, don’t be a winer, dont look down, always look your best and work on your looks.

    however this entry I have to disagree. men should not compliment hot attractive women from the get go, specially not with fawning adjectives like “you look so gorgeous, like a goddess” that’s the kiss of death.

    blowing up a women who already has an inflated ego is the kiss of death. as a man who does have success with attractive women, I learned the hard way to make em EARN my attention.

    I would recommend men to talk with women and open them with situational openers, be very brief and never too talkative, then tell her, “you look cute interesting and I’d like to take you out on a date you and me sometime in a week or two”.

    I have no problem complimenting women on her choice of garb or sens of style, or her choice of whatever she’s buying or her, but for the love of god do not compliment her physique like every other horny guy. make her guess, don’t let her feel like she already has you mesmerised with her beauty. never be intimidated by her looks.

    even lucia, the cougar experts agree on that
    http://www.nurple.com/online-dating/31972.php

    best

  2. Thanks for the great comments. @therealdeal I think men who tell me I’m beautiful, gorgeous or stunning catch my attention more than those who compliment on my shoes or accessories. You want to tell a woman how beautiful she is because you already think so and she already knows that you think so. Men who think they can use reverse psychology on a beautiful women are sadly mistaken. when you make bold statements about a woman’s looks, you are in control because you are lowering her guard with your frankness. The point is not to bask in her beauty the point is for her to like you. A woman will appreciate your good taste. Now you can ask about a date or for her number. I agree that exchanges should be brief. but never underestimate bold statements. its better to be direct it shows command. and no man can separate himself from the other horny guys, if you approach an attractive woman she knows hat want to sleep with her, and if you act like you don’t she will have the upper hand

  3. “when you make bold statements about a woman’s looks, you are in control because you are lowering her guard with your frankness.”

    Telling a women she is as beautiful as a goddess is not bold is brownnosing,however telling a women in an upfront and unapologetic manner that I find her attractive or sexy (no need to fawn all over her like a yes-man) and that I want her to share my company sometime in the near future to get to know her more intimately is bold.

    “The point is not to bask in her beauty the point is for her to like you.”

    I agree and disagree. I’ve had sex with women who did not really “like” me, in other words, I’ve been called many SUBJECTIVE terms by some women such as “jerk” or “asshole” but then they slept with me regardless. what they were doing was putting up a front and testing me to see if I was gonna bend to their whims and crumble under their subjective criticisms…which is why a man should stand his ground and leave the women alone if she rejects his advances, there are too many fine ladies out there to waste time trying to “convince” a particular one to “like” me.

    though I do not disagree that a man should have some sex appeal in him, the point is to create sexual tension and one way to do it is by having big ass balls to let her know in a straightforward and unapologetic/non-defensive manner that I want her to share my company. it has worked more in my favour when the women was a bit intimidated by my demeanour or a bit uncomfortable than when she is 100% comfortable with me. Making a women feel too comfortable and too relaxed is overrated, same as respecting a women too much to the point of making it encroach on my own self-respect and dignity.

    give em an inch, they take a mile as power corrupts and absolute power corrupts absolutely.

    there has to be some tension and egotistical frustration in that she cannot control his behaviour or get under his skin.therefore, It is not masculine to go around trying to make people “like” me.

    Bill cosby said:”I don’t know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everybody”

    “never underestimate bold statements. its better to be direct it shows command. and no man can separate himself from the other horny guys, if you approach an attractive woman she knows hat want to sleep with her, and if you act like you don’t she will have the upper hand”

    I do not disagree with that comment above. by the way I invite you to check out the book “ModeOne:Let the women know what you’re really thinking” by Alan Currie

    Peace out

  4. I can appreciate where you disagree but I have to admit when men brown nose or suck up to me its because they don’t have as much to offer me as I do to them. You have to understand its not easy to get certain women period so flattery is your best option. But I believe neither men nor women should pursue anyone that they feel is better than them. It takes a certain self-esteem to walk up to a woman and make a bold statement. Men have to feel like their compliment means something and its not just a reaction from being stunned by beauty. You have to present your company as being something she should want. the mistake men make is not presenting a defined image of what a woman is getting once they go with him. Many men are willing to do what a woman wants because they want her company. As pretty as I am I know that I have alot to offer. If men don’t feel like they have as much to offer then compliments that are excessive like telling a woman she is the most beautiful woman he’s ever seen, make a huge difference. At least then she feels she’s getting a fan club. and you would be surprised how many people date without dignity. But you have to do what works to get what you want and compliments can get you respect once you stay on course for getting what you’re after. If you simply compliment a woman and expect her to say thank you and ask you out then thats dumb. You’re complimenting her with a bold statement that might make her tell her friends, you won’t believe what this guy said to me today. and you want her to give you the time of day. I will check that book out. Thanks for the great comment!

  5. Can I come over for dinner?
    Of course I thought she’s joking cause she was on register at the time.
    the most bold thing I said to a woman you look beautiful said had a man I apologized and went on shopping no need for fighting over a person who could never be mine

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