30 Year Old Virgins And Other Dating Woes
Last Friday on the Oprah Show, she introduced her audience to two 30 year old virgins. The common consensus of the show was although there is nothing wrong with waiting until marriage to have sex, there is something wrong with wanting to have sex and not having any. The brave women on the show, willing to share their stories were suffering from what many poor daters (not just virgins) have to deal with. TheDatingTruth is: Whatever your current situation is: it sucks. It’s not your choice but it is your fault.
That’s the advice of famed sex expert Dr. Laura Berman. No, I’m not a sex expert and to many people’s surprise and chagrin (mostly my dates) sex is not apart of my dating life. But the same advice can be applied to dating. So often we find that we aren’t meeting new people so it’s that much easier to continue, not to meet people. It’s time for a change. If you want to get a date, have sex or just be overall happier with your social life, the following ideas are sure to help.
FAKE-DATE A FRIEND. Enlist a friend of the opposite sex to spend an evening with you, just the two of you. If you don’t have any friends of the opposite sex, that should tell you something. Ask a co-worker that you like, any single person of the opposite sex, you can be yourself around will do. If people are hesitant to be alone with you change your approach. Buy tickets to an event, invite them to something incredibly interesting but don’t quit asking until you get someone to say yes. If “friends” aren’t willing to spend time with you what makes you think a stranger will?
MAKE 2 LISTS. Everything you like about yourself and everything you wish you could change and be HONEST. Self- esteem is the difference between who you think you are and who you think you should be. Obviously, these women on Oprah did not envision being virgins at 25 but as time went on their self esteem lowered. If this has happened to you admit it, accept it and start working on changing it. Maybe you need to get into shape or join a few groups to vary your interests. You might not have had the guts to make progress before but if these women can share their stories on national television, admitting it to yourself should be a piece of cake.
DON’T LOOK A MESS. If you are looking for a date you should absolutely never look sloppy. For those people who believe that love will “find them” it’s going to be that day when you decided to look a hot mess, wear something terrible to the grocery store then love will look at you and say, “Child, please.”
Looking a damn shame are for those singles who are getting dates already, singles who look so good they can afford to take a day off. (not me)
But it’s not for those who are looking for dates, wanting dates and can’t seem to get them. Like you know, you.
Every single man and woman need to understand that any indication that you can’t or don’t take care of yourself is a deal breaker. It’s a competitive market and dating is very superficial. Everyday could be the day that you will meet a potential date, why risk blowing your chances by looking like you wrestled an alligator before you left the house?